How are you going?
Get it off your chest.
Whether it's just happened, you're sorting out kids and property, or it's been years and it still hurts. A private place to put it down, one day at a time.
Which best describes you?
This changes a few questions and which support lines come first. You can change it any time.
Everything you enter stays on this phone. Everything you enter stays on this phone. Nothing is sent to your ex, their lawyer, the court or anyone else. Unladen Apart is a prototype. It is not a medical or emergency service and is not connected to any court, lawyer, government agency or service. · Give feedback
Take a moment.
Take a breath. You don't have to reply, decide or sign anything right now.
Breathe with this
What you might be feeling
- Shaky, sick, or a racing heart
- Numb, or oddly calm
- Tearful, angry, or both
- Wanting to send a message you might regret
These are normal reactions. They usually settle over hours or days.
If you're not safe
If your ex is threatening, following or controlling you, that's not a normal separation. Call 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) any time, or 000 if you're in danger. The eye button at the top hides this screen quickly.
Ground yourself
Look around. Name them, out loud or in your head.
Call someone now
Add a friend, family member or a support line in so they're here when you need them.
Not sure who to tell?
Sometimes family and friends take sides, or you don't want to burden them. There are people who help with exactly this. Or write down what happened, just for you, while it's fresh.
What helps after
Handover to yourself
A few minutes for you. Notice what you're carrying, then put down what you can for today.
Please talk to someone now
You said you've had thoughts of harming yourself or not wanting to be here. Please call one of these now. If you're in immediate danger, call 000.
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If you don't feel safe
Threats, following, checking your phone or controlling money aren't part of a normal separation. 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is there 24/7, and police can help with safety orders. Use the eye button to hide this screen quickly.
Your safety
You said you didn't feel fully safe. That matters. Call 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) any time, or 000 if you're in danger.
Tonight
You said you've got very little energy left. Eat something, put your phone down for a bit, and try to sleep. Things often feel a little less heavy in the morning.
What might help
People you can call
This isn't a medical assessment. It's a way to notice how you're going over time.
How it's been going
Last 14 days
Handovers
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Privacy & your data
Add a PIN, download what you've entered, or delete everything from this phone.
One day at a time
What to watch for, and what helps. Tap a heading to open it.
A blow-up or hurtful message
- You don't have to reply straight away. Wait until you've slept on it.
- Keep messages short and about practical things.
- Save anything threatening.
Kids and handovers
- Handovers can bring everything back up. Plan something calm for afterwards.
- Try not to put kids in the middle.
- Family Relationship Centres help parents agree on arrangements without going to court. Call 1800 050 321.
Lawyers, property and court
- Get advice before you sign anything.
- LawAccess NSW (1300 888 529) can point you to free legal help.
- Keep copies of documents and money records.
If you don't feel safe
- Separation can be the most dangerous time if there's been violence or control.
- 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) is there 24/7.
- Police can apply for an apprehended violence order to protect you.
- The eye button at the top hides this screen quickly.
Being alone
- Empty weekends and quiet nights are often the hardest part.
- Plan small things to look forward to.
- Reach out to one person. MensLine (1300 78 99 78) is there for men, any time.
Grief for the life you planned
- Even when it was the right decision, you can grieve what you hoped for.
- Anger, relief and sadness can all come in one day.
- It usually gets easier, but not in a straight line.
Signs you're carrying too much
- Can't stop checking their social media or messages
- Not sleeping or eating
- Drinking more
- Feeling hopeless about the future
- Pulling away from friends
Separation is one of the hardest things people go through. It's a normal response, not a weakness.
When to get more help
If things have been heavy for two weeks or more, talk to your GP. A GP can set up a Mental Health Treatment Plan for Medicare-subsidised sessions with a psychologist.
People to call
Save the ones that apply to you. They stay on this phone and show up on the Help now screen.
Support lines
Support that's just for you
You don't have to go through family, friends or lawyers. Here are people who help with separation. You choose what to do, and when.
From a local service
A local service can add its own counselling and legal contacts here.
People who help with separation
- Family Relationship Advice Line. Information and referrals about separation and parenting arrangements, 1800 050 321.
- Relationships Australia. Counselling, including for separating couples, 1300 364 277.
- MensLine Australia. For men, any time, 1300 78 99 78.
- LawAccess NSW. Free legal information and referrals, 1300 888 529.
- Your GP. Can refer you on.
Text or chat instead of calling
For when talking out loud isn't possible, or feels like too much.
For particular situations
Numbers and services are for New South Wales and Australia-wide.
Spiritual and religious support
Some people find strength in prayer, ritual or their faith or cultural community after a hard day. Others find it in nature, music, exercise or quiet. Whatever gives you meaning counts.
If your workplace has a chaplain or wellbeing officer, they support people of any faith or none. Their role is to listen, not to persuade.
Words to start with
The first sentence is often the hardest. You could say:
"I'm not ready to make a complaint. I just need to talk this through."
"Can this stay between us? Is there anything you'd have to pass on?"
"We've separated and I'm not coping."
"I need to know my options before I sign anything."
What happens if I tell someone?
- Counsellors, peer supporters and helplines keep what you say private. The main exception is if someone is at serious risk of harm. If you're unsure, ask at the start.
- A union can give you confidential advice before you decide anything.
- A support line will listen without taking sides.
- Your private record in this app stays on your phone unless you choose to share it.
Not ready to tell anyone?
That's OK. You can write down what happened, just for yourself, and decide later.
Numbers and services are for New South Wales and Australia-wide. Check with your organisation for its own services.
Write down what happened
It stays on this phone. It isn't a report, and nothing is sent anywhere. If you later decide to raise something, notes written at the time are easier to rely on than memory.
My entries
Entries can't be edited, so each one shows when it was written. To add something, write a new entry.
No entries yet.
If you decide to share it, you can download it or send it to yourself.
Your phone, your data
PIN lock
Ask for a PIN when the app opens, and after it has been in the background for a minute.
PIN is on.
The PIN stops someone else opening the app on your phone. It doesn't encrypt what's stored, so keep your phone locked too. If you forget it, you can delete everything and start again.
Hide the screen
Tap the eye button at the top of any screen to cover the app straight away, for example at home, at work or at handovers. Tap to come back, or enter your PIN if you've set one.
Download my data
Download everything you've entered (handovers, private record and contacts) as a text file. You could keep a copy, or show it to your GP or counsellor.
Delete everything
Deletes your handovers, private record, role, contacts and PIN from this phone.
Delete everything from this phone? This can't be undone.
About Unladen Apart
Unladen™ Apart is a prototype made by Co-Synthesist Pty Ltd, Newcastle NSW. Unladen™ is a trade mark of Co-Synthesist Pty Ltd. It isn't a medical or emergency service, and it isn't connected to any court, lawyer, government agency or service. The questions haven't been clinically validated yet.
What's stored: your role, handovers, private record, saved contacts and settings, only in this phone's browser. Nothing is sent to anyone. There are no accounts, analytics or trackers.
Feedback: the feedback form is the only part of Unladen Apart that sends anything, and only when you press Send. It doesn't include anything else from the app.
Keep in mind: if you clear your browser data or remove the app, what you've entered goes too. Download a copy first if you want to keep it.
Version 0.1 prototype · October 2026